What do you think of yourself deep down inside? Do you believe you can heal and be whole?
Here are nine individual rights that, if we believe in them enough, we can more often feel what we want: healed and whole.
You have the fundamental right:
1. To exist and occupy space. You have the fundamental right to be here for the sole reason that you are already here.
You may have been made to feel small or nonexistent at some point, which may have caused you to feel the need to stay small or bloat up to overcompensate. You may have believed you had to do this to be loved, but your value cannot be diminished. It is never inferior to that of another. You have the right to take a deep breath at all times.
2. Having needs and wants. Needs and wants can be emotional, physical, or spiritual. You may have learned that you can have requirements but not wants, or maybe you shouldn’t. You may have learned that you can have needs and desires with conditions in place. You are entitled to both, and you must define what they are. You can have respect, love, work, play, and flourish. You can live with deep integrity in caring for yourself with boundaries, food, and kindness.
3. To be separate and also to belong. You have the right to join, participate, be different, rest, and be still and silent. It is your right to be different from others, to identify yourself as a person, and to express your uniqueness. Right now, you belong where you are without needing to contort yourself to fit in. You have the right to healthy communication that helps you connect and disconnect as you want or need. You are connected even when you are alone.
4. Not knowing and making mistakes. You have the right to learn and grow. You have the right not to have an answer, not to anticipate all the things that can go wrong, or to become obsessed with preventing them. You have the right to be uncertain, to change your mind, and to have your answer for yourself. You have the right to be imperfect, make mistakes, and enjoy life.
It’s normal to fail. You have the right to try new things without knowing what will happen. You can leave issues unresolved. You can adapt, change and mature throughout your life. You have the right to be different from who you were a minute ago, to stretch and awaken to something new. You also have the right to transform yourself.
5. Be ordinary. You have the right to be “as is.” You also have the right not to stand out, succeed or be more extraordinary than you are. You are valuable without needing to “arrive” anywhere personally or professionally to feel special.
You are a paradox: broken and whole at the same time, sinner and holy, wounded and healed, ordinary and extraordinary. You can stop striving and embrace yourself with no more self-improvement. You have the right to grow organically without becoming the best. You have the right to stop performing and lie fallow.
6. To love and be loved as you wish. You have the right to unconditional tenderness for yourself. Your inherent value entitles you to dignity and privacy. You have the right to love whoever you want and how you want and continue growing that way. You have the right to be kind to yourself, to express compassion and gentleness, and to relax. You can move forward in life with an open heart, giving and receiving support. You are entitled to infinite intimacy with this moment, which is enlightenment.
7. To find your way and tell your story. You have the right to follow your heart to live authentically. You are your authority. It’s okay to complain, have a different opinion, and say it out loud. You don’t have to accept the status quo or someone else’s insistence on how things are or who you are. Find the wisdom of your own lived experience and trust it.
8. Live with contentment and ease. You have the right to deep relaxation and gratitude and to live with more simplicity and less effort. You have the right to feel the full spectrum of emotions – grief, pain, anger, loss – and to connect with inner peace and joy. You have the right to serenity and contentment despite your circumstances or feelings.
9. To connect with beauty and freedom. You have the right to experience food and joy, to find the extraordinary ordinary at any time you choose. You have the right to see the sacred in everything, live creatively, and feel pleasure in everyday life. You have the right to drop any facade or pretense and live freely.
Live creatively and release ideas and prefabricated constructs about yourself, the world, or your God. You have the right to assume the best of yourself and connect with beauty. This is part of awakening.